Call it intuition, inner dialogue or guidance, we all have our moments where we hear a little voice inside of ourselves whispering words that we may or may not care to hear. The question worth asking yourself though is are you really listening to that little voice inside of your head?
We’ve all heard that we should trust our intuition and that it’s never wrong and most of us get this.
Yet it’s my belief that the challenge for many lies in knowing how to really listen to what your inner voice is telling you and once you hear it, feeling comfortable in taking the steps to put the words into action. This may mean making a decision, setting boundaries, or walking away from a difficult situation rather than prolonging something that is less than ideal.
Some of us may have barriers in place that don’t allow for us to trust our inner wisdom and instead, may feel following external guidance, whether solicited or not, is the safer way to play things. While this may seem like a good idea at the time, those who offer advice may not always have the best of intentions and they aren’t likely to know the full picture of everything that you need to take into consideration when you are making the decision of what is best for you.
You are the only one who knows what is best for you.
What if you do have the answers to all of life’s questions inside of you but are just unable to recognize them? Or worse, what if you are hearing the words loud and clear but are letting the fear of following through guide you into pushing them away?
Are you ruled by fear or by the love that you have for yourself?
I’d like to share a few tips that I find useful in helping to break down barriers that may sometimes harbor my ability to sometimes pay attention to that little voice, slowing me down from making the right decision.
Take a break!
Remove yourself from the situation for a few moments and move to a place where you are able to surround yourself with different sights, sounds and scenery. If you’re not able to go outside this can easily be achieved indoors by walking into another room and striking up a conversation with someone who has no awareness of all the nonstop thoughts that have been running through your mind in your internal debate.
Keep the commitments and promises you make to yourself!
I think we would all agree that it’s easy to lose trust in others when commitments are continually being broken. It’s no different for yourself. When you hear the voice, pay attention and follow through by identifying what action you will take to honor it. Once you have identified it, take a step in the right direction immediately without wavering. When you have one foot out the door it’s more likely the other will easily follow.
Remember there is no such thing as the right answer, instead go on a mission to find your right answer.
I like to look at it as a matter of finding what is the answer that is right for me based on where I’m at that particular moment in time, recognizing this can ebb and flow based on what’s going on around me. Having an internal debate inside your head between what you perceive to be the right answer as opposed to the wrong answer brings more anxiety and worry into a situation that doesn’t need any more, often leading to procrastination on making any decision.
Another way of looking at it is to fast forward ahead to five years and imagine yourself looking back at this particular moment in your life where you had to make the decision you need to make. Will you even remember this decision or will it be of so little importance that you find you are belittling yourself with just how much energy and focus you put into making it?
It’s easier than you may think, after all, your heart always knows.
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Thank you this is very much appreciated advice, this last year and a half has brought many challenges health wise and this is a good reminder that the voice that critiques us is not always in the best interest. Corinne
Personally, I have been in constant touch with this voice. A voice that I have found most comfort in, though it’s not always easy especially if there is past of a few bumps. But in the long run, it sets all regrets free and is rewarding, just like you said.